My last post got me thinking that if I ever do start dating (…’if‘ being the key word there, still a little too scared to actually consider it, but that’s for another post.) Anyway, if I go on a date, do I even know what I’m looking for? What do I want in someone? What’s important to me? I mean, I know the basics: not crazy, not a murderer, etc. I realized I had just settled for so long with what I had in my marriage, that now it’s like the whole word is open and I have the freedom to choose…what a crazy thought, having choices?! Do I want someone type-A, creative, down-to-earth, life of the party, or quiet and mysterious? So many options…but I think I’ve narrowed it down to at least a few of the most important qualities I’d like to have in a relationship:
Funny – a great sense of humor is at the top of my list, for sure. I want to spend the rest of my life laughing with someone…when we are eighty, jammin’ out to the ‘oldies’ from the 2000s and still bustin’ out those crazy dance moves we learned when we were young, I want to be able to laugh at each other trying to break it down in the living room. Until one of us fractures a hip, then we’ll use our Life Alert necklaces and laugh/cry until EMS comes and takes us to the hospital.
I want someone who can find humor in the little things. I want to make fun of our kids and embarrass the crap out of them. I expect full-on prank wars in our house, and tickle fights that don’t stop until there are tears (from laughter, of course, I’m not evil).
And, let’s be honest, I’ve got a great laugh. It would be a shame not to make the most of it. 😉
Extrovert – I myself am not, I repeat, NOT an extrovert. I lack self-confidence most of the time, I like to stay home, read, and/or binge watch a new TV show as often as I can. If you see me at a party/wedding/social event, 99% of the time I’ll be in the kitchen cleaning or casually sitting off to the side enjoying my wine and people-watching. While I do enjoy my people-watching, I want someone in my life who will pull me out of my shell, drag me onto the dance floor, and make me do the macarena/electric slide/Thriller until my feet feel like they’re going to fall off.
I want to try new things. I want someone to make mistakes with, try amazing and/or horrible new foods, go to movies that are so bad they’re good, someone to join me on spontaneous road trips with awesome playlists on the way.
Passionate– I don’t care if he loves football so much we have to sit in freezing (or blazing hot) weather every Saturday to see his favorite team. Or, if we have to travel to every theme park in America to ride the best/most terrifying roller coasters. Having a hunger for life is so important to me.
Life is short, and I want to make the most of it. I want to find new passions, make huge goals and accomplish the most I can out of my life. Have someone there to help motivate and encourage couldn’t hurt, either!
Sure, there’s always other qualities that wouldn’t hurt to have around:
-being tall (I’m only 5’2″…I need someone who can reach the top shelf at the grocery store!)
-being able to cook breakfast (I am an excellent cook, just not bacon, eggs, or toast, it’s weird I know)
-being ‘punny’ (because a good pun always brightens my day without fail, and I need that in my life)
So, that’s that, I know you all were just dying to know what I’m looking for in a guy, but, this is my thinking place. I didn’t write this hoping some guy would read it, get shot in the butt by Cupid, and realize ‘he’s the one for me’, rather I just like to get these crazy thoughts out of my head and organize them into a post that makes me feel not so crazy. Hope you enjoy. 🙂